Meet Richard Maring, Founder of SeeNoEvil

This is a great video of Richard Maring, the founder of Tribinium Corporation, talking about the problem at hand and what drove him to create the solution.

SeeNoEvil Features

It is hard to describe how amazing the features of SeeNoEvil are in words so I decided to post these videos.  Check them out!

Safe Web Browsing

Monitoring and Reporting

Program Controls

Time Limits

SeeNoEvil at ROCK Concert

This past weekend SeeNoEvil went to the ROCK concert featuring Big Daddy Weave, Mark Schultz, and Building 429.  The Rock concert was hosted by ROCK. 

Rock (Reclaim Our Culture Kentuckiana) was created in March of 2004 after a group of citizens came together after a series of articles reporting on the unrestrained growth of sex businesses in the Kentuckiana area and their related negative effects on the community.  The people of ROCKformed the ROCK to change the the Kentuckiana area for the better. 

The concert was a blast!  ROCK did such a great job hosting such an amazing event, and SeeNoEvil was honored to be there!  For the latest information on ROCK, Check out their website.

Tips On How To Fight Pornography Temptation

Tips on How to Fight Pornography Temptation

• Workout – If you are tempted, resort to something else, actually physically working out is a good thing because it directs your mind and your energy elsewhere
• Call a friend – Having a trusted friend or accountability partner you can talk to in times of temptation is invaluable.  If you don’t have a friend or accountability partner, you might want to see if you can find one, contact your local church or men’s group.
• Invest in anti-pornography software.  It will help to keep your computer clean.
• Avoid the people and places that seem to lead to watching pornography. 
• Pray – Nothing beats the power of prayer!  Some men have won the battle by reading scripture, or even just putting on some Christian music. 

Tips for Purity

This past week, we at SeeNoEvil got to hang out with some awesome teens, working hard to stay pure in a culture that presents temptation everywhere.  Aside from having SeeNoEvil that prevents exposure to  PORNOGRAPHY on the net, here is what else the teens are doing to stay pure…

  Avoiding music that promotes lustful thoughts

 Avoiding movies that lead to lustful thoughts

 Dressing modestly

 Praying for purity of mind and heart

 Spending time on group dates with teens who have the same values

 Setting standards with the one they date

The Process of Forgiveness

In the past few months SeeNoEvil has talked to a few wives who have found pornography on their husband’s computer.  We are here to provide these couples with the technology to combat pornography temptation in the marriage.   We also understand that sometimes such an encounter in a marriage can be very difficult and require a tremendous amount of healing and forgiveness.  Below you will find some scripture and insight on forgiveness that we hope you find helpful.  For more information, we recommend you check out Behind Closed Doors – Christians, Pornography, and the Temptations of Cyberspace by Dr. Robert J. Baird, and Ronald L. Vanderbeck. 

Some time later, Jesus went up to Jerusalem for a feast of the Jews. Now there is in Jerusalem near the Sheep Gate a pool, which in Aramaic is called Bethesdaand which is surrounded by five covered colonnades. Here a great number of disabled people used to lie—the blind, the lame, the paralyzed.  One who was there had been an invalid for thirty-eight years. When Jesus saw him lying there and learned that he had been in this condition for a long time, he asked him, “Do you want to get well?”  “Sir,” the invalid replied, “I have no one to help me into the pool when the water is stirred. While I am trying to get in, someone else goes down ahead of me.” Then Jesus said to him, “Get up! Pick up your mat and walk.” At once the man was cured; he picked up his mat and walked.   John 5:1-9

Dr. Baird and Dr. Vanderbeck note that “couples want to repair the relationship. They want to reestablish trust and commitment.  They want to experience forgiveness and reconciliation.  But feeling immobilized by the pain of their experience, they just do not know what to do.”

The first step may be allowing yourself to feel the pain, and asking Jesus to “help you into the well wherethe healing water is stirred.”  Once you recognize the hurt and make an effort to move forward, Christ will help you onto the path of forgiving, healing, and moving on. 

We wish you the best.  Remember, we at SeeNoEvil will be praying for you.

Is It Okay To Talk About Pornography In Our Church?

SeeNoEvil recently contacted Pastor Travis Walker to see if we could share his story on our blog.  He agreed.  We are honored to have him featured as a guest writer on our blog and hope you gain insight and inspiration from this posting.  Thank you. 

Is It Okay to Talk About Pornography In Our Church?  by Travis Walker 

Hi, I am a recovering porn addict. This is not a confession. This is simply a fact.

I am not going to go deep into the skeletons that lay in the closet of my youth and young adulthood that might explain psychologically and physiologically why I turned to pornography to cope with the deeper issues I was struggling with at that time. It just happened, and I got hooked. It happens to a lot of us unfortunately. Long before I decided to become a minister that compulsion or habit or addiction or whatever you want to call it was deeply ingrained in me. And just because I made a choice to change my life and begin following Christ did not make it magically vanish. I wish it had. I spent many days in tears asking God why He wouldn’t just take it away from me, but He didn’t, at least not right away. You see God wanted to teach me something.

In my battle with this addiction over the last seven years or so I have learned quite a bit about myself, about sin, and about salvation. I have learned that I am totally powerless to fight this battle in my own strength. Not only do I need the help of God, but I also need the help of others. I have also learned that almost every friend I have (male or female, married, not married, pastors included) struggles with sexual temptation and especially pornography. I have friends that you would think are the closest thing to a description of your ideal Christian could be, and yet they feel enchained to this addiction.

So what are we doing as a church to deal with this epidemic? Are we going to continue to stay quiet and deny the fact that up to 70% of our men in the church and 25-30% of women are struggling with pornography? Bernie Anderson’s book and speaking ministry is not enough. He should not bear the burden of being the spokesman for our church on this issue alone. We all share this struggle. Why are we not uniting together in bringing this sin out into the light as a church? Why are we pretending that were all okay? Can someone in our church who is enslaved to this debilitating compulsive behavior find help from within our church? I couldn’t. Not from a church who is in denial. Not from a church that subtly and not so subtly condemns people who openly struggle with sin. I had to seek help elsewhere. How long are we going to keep sending our people away to get help through our silence and refusal to talk about the elephant in the room?

The thing that is most disturbing about this compulsion is that it is very adept at totally sucking all the spiritual energy out of its victims. It drives them deeper and deeper until many become literally dead inside till they feel like there is no hope for them. I have been there. I know the feelings of utter despair and emptiness that viewing pornography compulsively can bring upon those who are enslaved, and yet don’t want to be. Contrary to what you might think not all those who view pornography do so because they want to, many do it because they feel like they have to. They feel driven to it by a cruel unrelenting master.

Like I said before, I have been consciously battling this compulsion for over seven years now. Before that I was totally enslaved to it for almost ten years. Praise God though, it has not always been a losing battle. I am not perfect, but I have learned some principles that help keep me “sober.” In fact I can say that by God’s grace I have been sober for some time now, not that I am totally free from temptation. I am constantly reminded of my weakness when I see a sexy billboard or go to the beach in the summer, but I have seen significant growth in my life.

I want to share some principles that I have learned that may help you if you are struggling with this addiction.

- First, you must know that you are not alone (1 Cor 10:13). Sometimes it can feel that way because the nature of this compulsion is to keep it hidden away so that no one, not even your best friend, knows about it. However many others are sharing this same struggle with you.

- Second, there is hope for you. Jesus is still knocking at the door of your heart (Rev 3:20) and he is inviting you to come to Him with the heavy burden of pornography so that He can give you rest and freedom (Matt 11:28). Instead of drinking from the well of pornography that will never truly satisfy your thirst, Jesus is offering you living water. And whoever drinks this water will never thirst (John 4:14). In fact Jesus said that He came to give you life and freedom (John 8:36; 10:10)

- Third, you must tell someone about your problem. Eph 5:11 tells us to “have no fellowship with the unfruitful works of darkness, but rather expose them.” Hiding your sin only strengthens it. If you don’t feel like you can trust anyone you know than email me! The point is you have to tell someone. James 5:16 teaches us to confess our sins to each other so we may be healed.

- Fourth, confession isn’t enough though. You must follow up confession with accountability. Find at least one person you can trust to ask you the tough questions about purity at least once a week. However if you can I suggest starting an accountability group. This group should comprise of only men or women and should meet regularly. I suggest using materials such as Every Man’s Battle, At The Altar Of Sexual Idolatry, or Sex Is Not The Problem Lust Is. I also suggest every member of the group signing a covenant that lays out the expectations of the group members who decide to join. An example of one can be found on my personal blog here.

- Fifth, you must radically amputate all sources of pornography from your life. Jesus tells us in the Sermon on the Mount, “If your right eye causes you to sin, pluck it out and cast it from you; for it is more profitable for you that one of your members perish, than for your whole body to be cast into hell. And if your right hand causes you to sin, cut it off and cast it from you; for it is more profitable for you that one of your members perish, than for your whole body to be cast into hell” (Matt 5:29, 30). The principle here is obvious: radically, if necessary, remove all sources of temptation that you have control over from your life. This most definitely means getting an Internet filter on your computer. I recommend Safe Eyes. I have used it for over three years now and it works great on PC or Mac. You can get a free 14 day trial here. You will never overcome this addiction while you allow yourself unfiltered Internet access at home or work. I can’t even imagine where I’d be today without it.

- Sixth, you must develop daily devotional habits. There is no getting around this. This is not optional! If you want freedom then you must learn to find your fulfillment from Jesus, the Word of God, alone and be filled by it everyday. Along with daily Bible reading and prayer you should also begin experimenting with other spiritual disciplines. Also exercise and a healthy diet are key weapons in your fight for obtaining purity and maintaining freedom.

- Finally, the seventh thing I must say to you is never give up! Don’t get discouraged when you fall again and again, but retrace your steps and analyze what caused you to fall and what you have to do differently to keep it from happening again. This quote from Steps to Christ is always an encouragement to me. Coming out of the darkness isn’t easy. It is my prayer and hope though that coming out of it together will make it a lot easier.

“There are those who have known the pardoning love of Christ and who really desire to be children of God, yet they realize that their character is imperfect, their life faulty, and they are ready to doubt whether their hearts have been renewed by the Holy Spirit. To such I would say, Do not draw back in despair. We shall often have to bow down and weep at the feet of Jesus because of our shortcomings and mistakes, but we are not to be discouraged. Even if we are overcome by the enemy, we are not cast off, not forsaken and rejected of God. No; Christ is at the right hand of God, who also maketh intercession for us. Said the beloved John, ‘These things write I unto you, that ye sin not. And if any man sin, we have an advocate with the Father, Jesus Christ the righteous.’ (1 John 2:1) And do not forget the words of Christ, ‘The Father Himself loveth you.’ (John 16:27) He desires to restore you to Himself, to see His own purity and holiness reflected in you. And if you will but yield yourself to Him, He that hath begun a good work in you will carry it forward to the day of Jesus Christ. Pray more fervently; believe more fully. As we come to distrust our own power, let us trust the power of our Redeemer, and we shall praise Him who is the health of our countenance.”

A Prayer for Men and Women who struggle with Pornography…

A Pray for Men and Women who struggle with pornography…

Lord you know what I have done and what shame I feel.  I ask for your forgiveness and for your healing in my life.  I ask that you give me strength to avoid Pornography.  I ask for your stength to overcome the images that are left in my mind.  I ask for your help and healing in the relationships that have been affected by my looking at pornography.  Help me to be honest with myself and those whom I love.  Lord guide me and direct me.  Give me the courage to be the man (woman) that you have created me to be.