Protecting children – beyond the online world

How do we protect our children?

With stories like this, the task of protecting our children can seem daunting and even impossible.

Protecting children today, goes far beyond warning them of the windowless van offering candy at the playground.

What are some things you can do to protect your children….

• Listen to them!  You child’s words are of great importance. The car is a great place to speak with your child.  Turn down the radio and listen to them!  Ask about their day, their school, and their friends.  The more people about what is going on in their life, the more you can monitor it.
• Make sure your children know about the “swim suit” rule.  Your child should know that NO ONE should ask to see or touch any area that would be covered with a swim suit.  Also, no one should ever show them their “swim suit” parts. 
• Know the people that spend time with your child.  Make an effort to meet teachers, friends, parents of friends, and coaches.   Come a little early to if you are picking your child up from a practice or youth event.  It will give you great insight to see how your child interacts with adults and other children in the group.
• Listen to your children.  If they seem to be uncomfortable regarding a certain situation or person, pay close attention.  Your child’s discomfort could be a major red flag.
• Finally, look for changes your child’s attitude.  A sudden desire to spend time alone, neglect of personal hygiene, or drop in school performance is usually an indicator that something is up.  If you see a change like this in your child, contact their school.  Find out if teachers are observing the same.  A school counselor may be able to help address the situation and get your child back on track.

SeeNoEvil is here to provide the tools to monitor your child online, but we know their is so much more responsible parents must do.  We commend you for your efforts to keep your children safe, happy, and healthy in this unpredictable world.  We are honored to partner with you and your family!  Together we can make this a better, safer, and more humane world!

The Process of Forgiveness

In the past few months SeeNoEvil has talked to a few wives who have found pornography on their husband’s computer.  We are here to provide these couples with the technology to combat pornography temptation in the marriage.   We also understand that sometimes such an encounter in a marriage can be very difficult and require a tremendous amount of healing and forgiveness.  Below you will find some scripture and insight on forgiveness that we hope you find helpful.  For more information, we recommend you check out Behind Closed Doors – Christians, Pornography, and the Temptations of Cyberspace by Dr. Robert J. Baird, and Ronald L. Vanderbeck. 

Some time later, Jesus went up to Jerusalem for a feast of the Jews. Now there is in Jerusalem near the Sheep Gate a pool, which in Aramaic is called Bethesdaand which is surrounded by five covered colonnades. Here a great number of disabled people used to lie—the blind, the lame, the paralyzed.  One who was there had been an invalid for thirty-eight years. When Jesus saw him lying there and learned that he had been in this condition for a long time, he asked him, “Do you want to get well?”  “Sir,” the invalid replied, “I have no one to help me into the pool when the water is stirred. While I am trying to get in, someone else goes down ahead of me.” Then Jesus said to him, “Get up! Pick up your mat and walk.” At once the man was cured; he picked up his mat and walked.   John 5:1-9

Dr. Baird and Dr. Vanderbeck note that “couples want to repair the relationship. They want to reestablish trust and commitment.  They want to experience forgiveness and reconciliation.  But feeling immobilized by the pain of their experience, they just do not know what to do.”

The first step may be allowing yourself to feel the pain, and asking Jesus to “help you into the well wherethe healing water is stirred.”  Once you recognize the hurt and make an effort to move forward, Christ will help you onto the path of forgiving, healing, and moving on. 

We wish you the best.  Remember, we at SeeNoEvil will be praying for you.