The Process of Forgiveness

In the past few months SeeNoEvil has talked to a few wives who have found pornography on their husband’s computer.  We are here to provide these couples with the technology to combat pornography temptation in the marriage.   We also understand that sometimes such an encounter in a marriage can be very difficult and require a tremendous amount of healing and forgiveness.  Below you will find some scripture and insight on forgiveness that we hope you find helpful.  For more information, we recommend you check out Behind Closed Doors – Christians, Pornography, and the Temptations of Cyberspace by Dr. Robert J. Baird, and Ronald L. Vanderbeck. 

Some time later, Jesus went up to Jerusalem for a feast of the Jews. Now there is in Jerusalem near the Sheep Gate a pool, which in Aramaic is called Bethesdaand which is surrounded by five covered colonnades. Here a great number of disabled people used to lie—the blind, the lame, the paralyzed.  One who was there had been an invalid for thirty-eight years. When Jesus saw him lying there and learned that he had been in this condition for a long time, he asked him, “Do you want to get well?”  “Sir,” the invalid replied, “I have no one to help me into the pool when the water is stirred. While I am trying to get in, someone else goes down ahead of me.” Then Jesus said to him, “Get up! Pick up your mat and walk.” At once the man was cured; he picked up his mat and walked.   John 5:1-9

Dr. Baird and Dr. Vanderbeck note that “couples want to repair the relationship. They want to reestablish trust and commitment.  They want to experience forgiveness and reconciliation.  But feeling immobilized by the pain of their experience, they just do not know what to do.”

The first step may be allowing yourself to feel the pain, and asking Jesus to “help you into the well wherethe healing water is stirred.”  Once you recognize the hurt and make an effort to move forward, Christ will help you onto the path of forgiving, healing, and moving on. 

We wish you the best.  Remember, we at SeeNoEvil will be praying for you.